Mom shames 13-year-old daughter on Facebook for posing as 19 and posting racy pictures

Posted at 12:40 PM, May 20, 2015
and last updated 2015-05-21 06:21:10-04

A Denver mother's video on Facebook is going viral after she shamed her 13-year-old daughter for posting racy pictures and saying she was 19 years old.

"You're 13," the mother, Val Starks, says to the girl. "So why does your Facebook page say that your 19? Are you 19?"

The girl, whose face has been blurred in the video, says, "No."

The mother repeats, "No. You're 13."

"You've got a Facebook page and you're on there with your bra on, right?" the mother asks the girl. "Is that what you do?"

The girl says, "No."

The mother is mad because the teen apparently posted pictures of herself in lingerie and had adult men as friends on Facebook.

When the girl starts crying, the very angry mother says, "Don't cry now. You wasn't crying when you was posting pictures on Facebook, was you? In a bra? Some little girl in some lace panties that you know you don't own. You still wear panties that say Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday."

Watch the video here. (The story continues after the video player.)



Posted by Val HairLyfe Starks on Sunday, May 17, 2015

The mother goes on to make the young girl admit she has a bed time and still watches the Disney Channel.

The mother says the video is going to be posted on her Facebook page and the teenager's Facebook page and the mother wants her daughter's adult male friends to know: "She watches Disney Channel. She has a bed time. She doesn't sit around in a bra. She doesn't own any lace panties and she doesn't know how to wipe her butt good at 13. But you're on Facebook in a bra."

The mother had a message for the men on her daughter's Facebook page: "She's a kid and she's going to stay a kid. And as long as she's under my roof, she's going to do what I say."

The video lasts 5 minutes and 40 seconds.

Since the video was posted Sunday, it's had more than nine million views. Some supporters are calling her the Mother of the Year.

Starks posted on her Facebook page, "Wow one Mother with 9,000,000 views BUT GOD....!!!! feeling blessed."

Starks posted a second video on Monday thanking the people who supported her.

"I just wanted to say the word of the day is overwhelmed," Starks says. "I am truly overwhelmed with gratitude, I thank each and every one of you. I have over 5,000 friends now. Facebook won't let me accept any more."

She said she appreciates everyone calling her a great mom.

"It was really hard for me to do, but I didn't want to be another parent on Facebook putting out a video where I beat my child or anything like that," Starks said. "I wanted it to be something that showed from one mother to another mother, to the fathers out there struggling trying to raise a child or a teenage child, just to get them to be aware and to understand how serious it is and how important it is to be aware of what your child is doing at all times.

"Don't trust nothing they say," Stark said. "They lie, they're going to be sneaky. I was the one parent who would say, 'My daughter is not going to do that.'"

"Don't ever say what you won't do, or what your child won't do, because you don't know until it happens to you," Stark added.

Because the mom's Facebook page is public, people have been weighing in -- both supporting her and criticizing her.

Starks responded to the criticism saying, "I am her mother before anything. I am not her friend. I am not here to let her do whatever she wants. My job is to raise her -- sometimes that takes a little bit of tough love."

See the second video below. (The story continues after the video.)


To everyone who is supporting me! Please watch, thank u love

Posted by Val HairLyfe Starks on Monday, May 18, 2015

Karen Hall-Inglese wrote on Starks' Facebook page, "Now that's how you parent!! From one Mom to another good job!!"

"So glad the world has women like you! And mothers that pay attention and protect theirs," wrote Nikkie Skwirlie Stockamp. "I'm sure your daughter was embarrassed, but she learned a lesson she'll never forget. My daughter is only 6 now but in the future if anything like this were to happen I know what to do! You're amazing and strong. Thank you for showing the world what protecting your kids looks like."

Valeri Jones wrote on Facebook, "You're a good mom, Val. One day, she will understand and appreciate you."

See Starks Facebook page.

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